Signaling: More Bad Signs to Avoid – Dating Profile Pictures Part 1 of 2

You know how they say a picture is worth a thousand words? Well it’s true, you could tell so much about a person from their pictures, or lack thereof.

1.    No profile pictures. Generally in a dating site, profiles without a picture tend to get much less response. That’s because 1. Human beings tend to be visual people. 2. Too many people lie about their appearances. 3. The willingness to show one’s face is more rare among the married-disguised-as-single people. After all, a man would not want his sister-in-law to come across his profile, now would he?

When I started using online dating sites, I used to be overly politically correct and all about giving equal opportunity to profiles with or without pictures. But I soon realized the merits of a little bit of shallowness. Sometimes, a lack of picture could be a sign of insincerity or insecurity. Once a guy emailed me, and his entire profile and email were all about why he refused to post a picture. He angrily ranted that Tom Cruise wouldn’t be posting his picture, a top executive you see on the financial news wouldn’t be posting his picture, and he wouldn’t post his for exactly the same reason. And any girl who wants to see his face is a shallow bitch. Huh, so he was comparing himself with Tom Cruise and Fortune 500 CEOs. It was just, wow.

(continued in my next post...)