Self-Selection: Abusees Wanted

I have a theory about guys who are rude right from the very first email/chat/date. You know, the types who swear at women, criticize their figures, command them to obey them, etc. They might not be as dumb a signal-giver as one might think. In fact, maybe they want to scare the good ones away and quickly identify the ones who are willing to take their crap. If she takes it, then it’s a deal!

Think about it. If a guy is an abusive asshole with nothing to offer but harsh words and a pair of fists, he will be looking for women with low self-esteem who won’t leave him when he treats her poorly. He’s in the market for a punching bag, and a woman with high confidence just won’t cut it. His rudeness right from the start is an attempt to make the potential abusees self-select themselves. So next time a man started testing out the water by being rude, there’s no need to be nice and civilized - just run!