Signaling: More Bad Signs to Avoid – Dating Sites Part 1 of 2

Now here are some signs applicable to dating sites:

1. It’s all about him. Some guys on dating sites actually come right out and say it: “What can you do for me?” Gee, didn’t even pretend a little to be not selfish, at least in the beginning. No guess work whether this guy is a pure taker. An out-of-town guy once wrote to me and his profile said: “Looking for a girl who’s willing to relocate, because I’m not.” Self-centered, much?

2. Using rude language as an ice breaker. This tactic is based on the idea that “any publicity is good publicity”. A guy emails a woman a very rude message, hoping for a “what the hell” kind of response from her. Then he sends a second message with an apology, claiming that the colourful words were not meant for her and anyway would she like to go out for a drink so he could prove to her that he’s a gentleman? That is a really dumb attempt to open up a conversation, and will only attract women with very low self-esteem. But of course, some guys only aim for low self-esteem girls because they don’t have much to offer themselves. Plus, the guys figure they can control such a woman easily. The woman is less likely to leave or cheat on him, which makes him feel he has the power in the relationship.

(continued in my next post...)