Clustering: When Men Hunt in Packs at Single’s Events

As a bachelorette, I used to attend single’s events. Boy was I glad I went with friends, because in that kind of mingling there are a lot of men who hunt in packs, and it’s best for girls to travel in numbers too. Let me explain.

Often, it is beneficial for shops that sell similar products to locate right next to each other. In economics it’s called Clustering. Think about your local butchers or a street full of furniture shops. This is good for both customers and shop keepers. Shop keepers can band together to show off a wide array of their products. Customers can do one-stop shopping, and that in turns help attracts more businesses to the area.

At single’s events, males like to approach women in groups. That way, they can support each other, be bolder, and get the conversation going. Problem is, sometimes that can put a lone woman at quite a disadvantage. Especially if the males are drunk, and the mob mentality kicks in. Most girls go to these events to attract dates, not leering offers for gang bangs.

That’s why women form groups as well. A group of girls meeting a group of guys makes it a level playing field. To make it work, it’s best if you determine some code words with your friends beforehand. Like, “Let’s go to the washroom” means “Let’s get the hell out of here”, “I love this song” means “This guy I’m talking to seems alright,” “The music is too loud” means “I’m off for a chat with him, but don’t leave without me!”

If the men play fair, they introduce themselves and let the conversation flow organically. If certain boys and girls want to pair up, that’s up to them. If not, the groups go their separate ways.

But of course, not every group plays fair. Sometimes, a few men are assigned the job of distracting the more cautious and protective girls, so the others can move in. That way, it increases the chance that some of them might get lucky. It’s the good old trick of divide and conquer. So girls, stick with your group unless you’re absolutely comfortable going solo. When in doubt, remember:  hoes over bros!