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Example 2: This one is for the guys. On some dating sites, the males have to pay to join, but it’s free for females (those are also the same sites that take no time to set up an account, but get tons of players). For the guys who are looking for a long-term relationship, they should go for the sites where both genders have to pay. If a girl chooses to pay when she didn’t have to, then it’s more likely she’s looking for someone serious. The willingness to pay the cost of entry deterrence sends a strong signal to the market.
A friend of mine went on a date with a woman who asked him for money to fix her car after just two dates. Upon close examination, he noticed that her profile was very hastily put together and her requirements were generalized to the bare bone (“I’m into men aged nineteen to ninety five, from underweight to overweight...”). She probably had a whole bunch of profiles opened up, ready to snare unsuspecting men. So beware!
Example 3: As money and time-saving a Las Vegas drive-thru wedding is, there are real solid reasons why planning for a traditional one could be beneficial. Wedding preparation is an extremely stressful process, and it serves as the perfect entry deterrence for those who really shouldn’t get married to each other at all.
Putting a wedding together requires a lot of team effort (“You stop me from strangling the cake decorator, and I’ll prevent you from hitting the limo driver over the head with a frying pan”) and compromises (“Fine, no exotic flowers for desserts, but no Imperial March for the grand entrance either”). It’s also a time when the cracks on a person’s facade really show (“I had no idea she could go this crazy when she doesn’t get her way 100%/ OMG he’s such an attention whore that he requires his own make-up assistants to follow him around!”)
I even heard of a case about a couple who disagreed over the pre-nup so much that they decided not to get married (“I had no idea that cheating was acceptable in his mind and he didn’t want it to be used as a breach of contract”). These kinds of discoveries are exactly the type that people should make before the wedding. The ensuing fights help weed out the ill-matched couples who are doomed before they even started. So let them fight away! Better now than after the “I do”s!
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alright no Las Vegas!
I think a pre-nup is a good idea in any marriage, for exactly the reason you stated. Many couples are scared away from it, but it's a learning and building experience, not one that separates (unless you were meant to be separated, in which case, isn't it better to know now?)
Exactly. Better know now than later!
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Thanks for posting!