Self-Selection: Are All the Good Ones Gone? Part 1

After being in the dating pool for a while, and keeping on bumping into the same commitment-phobic losers over and over again, a girl can’t help but ask: are all the good ones gone? This is especially true for the ladies over thirty, when they can feel the clock ticking and starting to feel a little panicky and desperate. Is it too late for them?

First, let’s have a dose of reality (because you have to face the problems before you can find a solution). The good ones ARE going fast (collective gasp of horror from single girls all around).

Let’s explain this in terms of self-selection. Say in our general population there are three types of men:

Type One: Natural-Born Husband Material (those who naturally desire and enjoy matrimony).

Type Two: Late-Bloomer Husband Material (those who learn the value of long-term relationships through maturity).

Type Three: The Players* (those who would always prefer to play).

During their mid-twenties to early thirties, the Natural-Born Husband Material types gain the financial means to start a family, marry their sweethearts, and self-select themselves out of the dating market.

Give it a few more years and the Late-Bloomer Husband Material types do the same.

After that, the market will have mostly the third type left: the players. That’s nasty news if you’re an older single gal. Trying to convert a player is, of course, futile. But fear not! There’s hope! After all, I did say “mostly the third type left.”

(continued in my next post...)

*A word about the players: I have nothing against players who like to play with other players. All’s fair in sex and war and all that. I just have a problem with players who lie to others – and themselves – about what they really want. Commitment is not for everyone. If being a player makes you happy, then be one. Just don’t go and pretend otherwise, or force yourself to become a husband just because of social pressure. You are ruining more than just your own life. Be proud of your player status, but be fair and play with your own kind!